Crushes, Girlfriends, & Boyfriends.

Hawkin

Mouse
Welcome to the thread to talk about crushes, boyfriends, and girlfriends.
At this thread, you can talk about pretty much anything as long as it involves crushes, boyfriends, girlfriends, etc.
Discussing online relationships is perfectly fine & so is discussing "in real life" relationships.
Please don't give advice if you don't have any good intentions or don't genuinely want to help someone out & give them advice.
Also note that yes, we may be somewhat wise, but we are still young. Misinformation will be deleted.

Feel free to PM me or someone you feel comfortable talking with this kind of topic about if you don't want your post to be public.

Full credit goes to the original creator of this thread on CS.

Have any questions? Go to this website first thing before you say anything, trust me, it's worth a visit. It has loads of information about all kinds of things you might want to know (And should know!) and even some games that are pretty sweet. (I suggest My Paper Boyfriend or My Paper Girlfriend, they're pretty great for seeing how well you would do in a relationship, or if you're doing something horribly wrong.)

http://www.stayteen.org/relationships

Make sure to take a really good look around! It's very informative.


Rules

Be polite, kind, and respectful to everybody.
No spamming. Don't post random things that don't help the person at all.
You may only post your situation once per page. This will make it so everyone can have their questions answered. (You can post more than once per page; if you're giving out advice, pretty much post as much as you want. but no double posts please, though I understand a mistake.)
Try not to use this as your personal blog. Many people come here for advice, and while it is nice to hear about your good situation, posting about it every page isn't so entertaining.
Use advice at your own discretion. These are just regular people's opinions, try and get a few pieces of advice before you really consider doing something. Just because one person says something doesn't mean that it's the greatest advice.

If you have a question that you would like in the FAQ because you've seen it asked a lot, post on the thread or PM me and I'll throw it on here!

FAQ
currently empty.
 

Piieper

Mouse
great thread!
so,
i used to be in this online relationship years ago and i was faking it for like 2 years, i just fell out of love (+ figured out i wasn't interested in girls at that point) and felt bad if i had to admit it to her
i ended up just blocking my partner and i haven't talked to her since
this is possibly the worst way to end a relationship and i feel bad about it
i was wondering, what are some better ways i could've broken up with her?
 

Mcpatrick

MAH CHEESE!
great thread!
so,
i used to be in this online relationship years ago and i was faking it for like 2 years, i just fell out of love (+ figured out i wasn't interested in girls at that point) and felt bad if i had to admit it to her
i ended up just blocking my partner and i haven't talked to her since
this is possibly the worst way to end a relationship and i feel bad about it
i was wondering, what are some better ways i could've broken up with her?
that’s fine you, you needed to get her out of your system, forget memories. you could’ve told her like “yeah I don’t feel the same anymore but like i dont want to ruin us, so would it be okay to be friends?” and if she says no, that’s fine. not everything is predicted. it just happens. I hope you find love again soon.
 

Beliieve

Pingless
You're new here and your threads are already so helpful. I am currently not in a relationship in real life, but I do have one male crush who I know simply is too popular for me.​
 

Hawkin

Mouse
You're new here and your threads are already so helpful. I am currently not in a relationship in real life, but I do have one male crush who I know simply is too popular for me.​
Aww, thank you. & I'm sure he'd like you back if he got to know you. That is, if you two don't really know each other. :)
If you want some help on how to tell your crush you like them, how to get someone to like you, etc, just ask & I'll put it in my FAQ.
 

Hawkin

Mouse
People who question whether they should stay in a long-term relationship are often deeply conflicted about their decisions, especially if the partner they are going to leave behind will be emotionally wounded. In my opinion, break-ups are something that really depends on how you are, how your partner takes things, they are very, very, very personal. If you've fallen out of love with anyone you're in a romantic relationship with, it's best to let them go. It would be healthier for the both of you. I agree with Mcpatrick @Mcpatrick here, you could've said that instead of blocking your ex lover, but again everything just depends on everything, you know? My best advice for you [if this happens again, or just in general for anyone else reading this.] is to tell them how you feel. Explain & let the whole truth flood out. If you're way too scared of confrontation (I am) then you could write a letter instead & PM them, text them, give it to them or whatever you can do to just make sure it gets to them. I hope this helps! PM if you wanna talk more. Piieper @Homoo
 

Aesthetic

MAH CHEESE!
This is a very neat-o thread. :)
I had, I think, 2 online relationships; the first was 11 months, the more recent was 9 months. I still have feelings for the person that I had the latter with, and I still have the mindset that it'll work someday even though all evidence points to me not being the correct person for them (or maybe anyone?). I've tried getting over them; it's just resulted in me going against my mindset and therefore, quite literally, bursting into tears. (Yes, it sounds childish and that's why I put it in a spoiler.) I honestly don't know what to do about it at this point. I get jealous every time I see them, and then even more so when they say they love someone (whether platonically or real, my mind doesn't really care, I suppose) and it's not fair on them but I can't help it.
And so, basically, I'm stuck in a pile of useless feelings and emotions for someone who doesn't have them for me and is out of the mindset of it working when I'm not. It's painful and brings me down into depressive episodes.
Any advice for what's in the spoiler?
 

Hawkin

Mouse
This is a very neat-o thread. :)
I had, I think, 2 online relationships; the first was 11 months, the more recent was 9 months. I still have feelings for the person that I had the latter with, and I still have the mindset that it'll work someday even though all evidence points to me not being the correct person for them (or maybe anyone?). I've tried getting over them; it's just resulted in me going against my mindset and therefore, quite literally, bursting into tears. (Yes, it sounds childish and that's why I put it in a spoiler.) I honestly don't know what to do about it at this point. I get jealous every time I see them, and then even more so when they say they love someone (whether platonically or real, my mind doesn't really care, I suppose) and it's not fair on them but I can't help it.
And so, basically, I'm stuck in a pile of useless feelings and emotions for someone who doesn't have them for me and is out of the mindset of it working when I'm not. It's painful and brings me down into depressive episodes.
Any advice for what's in the spoiler?
I will gladly give you advice for this, my friend. I can relate to you in some ways with 2 people who are currently in my life. One has no idea about my feelings & I plan on keeping it that way, and the other was my first real heartbreak, except we never dated. But I will not get into that gigantic mess. Sometimes it can be very hard to get over an ex, a breakup (friendship & relationship), or something that happened between 2 or more people. I understand where you're coming from & don't feel childish, this is normal. I know some people might think it's ridiculous that you're not over this person yet, but forget about them. They don't understand & they're not in your shoes, okay? Going back to your other points, I'm not sure as to what advice I should give you to move on, seeing as it is something that I personally struggle with. Try dating yourself. Treat yourself, keep yourself busy, clean, do what you enjoy & do what makes you happy. It sounds like you two are still friends, so I don't think it would be appropriate for me to say that you should distance yourself from them, but definitely take some time away. Just don't be cold! It's okay to want some time to yourself every once in a while & it can be really helpful with clearing your mind & just thinking, even if thinking is something you do a lot. Jealousy is a really hard thing to overcome especially if your sun sign is known for that. [Don't mind me, i'm very into astrology.] Whenever this person is hanging around other people & you start to feel the jealousy coming in, you have some options.

1. "Hey, do you mind if just me & you hung out today?" | In my opinion, this only a temporary solution.
2. Try to get along with this other person & join in on their conversation. If this doesn't work & you're feeling left out then please tell them so.
3. If all else fails, you can make up an excuse & leave. | I don't recommend this but I won't deny that I've done this before.

I hope this helped you.
Sincerely,
Hawkin.
 

Kysa

Cheese Artist
I've never had a real boyfriend before because honestly until 6th grade i had no interest for boys.
But this one kid knows what monstercat is and he told me that i'd done well because i made him laugh?
but since switched seats and i catch him looking at me from across the room and i cant help but blush
then my table mates say: "oooh your face is so red!!"
 

Duckk

Mouse
I often give a cruel/cold vibe off whenever I'm in a relationship and of course that causes issues within it. I basically attempt to steer away from relationships and feelings in general but for feelings it's a bit difficult to avoid. Shockingly, I've had relationships that we're great but not everything lasts forever sadly but I'm perfectly fine with the position I'm in now.
 

Kitsilulu

Pingless
I've had many crushes before, for some odd reason. Some people have liked me back, others have liked me in general without me liking them as well. I've had a horrible experience with a 15 year old on here who liked me. They kind of went overboard so that's when I felt like it would be best to be done with love. Except I wasn't done, I liked this boy who I've liked for a year. He broke my heart, and that's when I was really done. For now I will back away from love. I don't have a crush on anybody, not now and I doubt I ever will. I'd rather be independent. (I won't get into details about the 15 year old issue, it's disturbing and against the forum rules, all I can say is that they liked me and things went overboard. Do not ask me about what happened. I only put this in because it's the reason I don't love anymore, and so is the other crush story)
 

Kinta

Honored EN Artist
I can't describe my feelings towards relationships. I'm a very confusing person when it comes to my personal preferences. I've had a few relationships, though they all ended the same way. I guess back then I was "desperate" and alone? Nearly everyone I dated was with me for my appearance and left me after seeing how "annoying" and clingy I can be at times LMAO. I usually drive myself away from relationships now because of trust issues. I never know if they're going to stay with me forever but that's life! It's full of surprises. <3 I'm pretty happy with my relationship with my exes. It's best to still be friends with them even if things didn't work out romantically! If things are tough in your current position, take a break or a moment to cool off. We all say things we don't mean and you'll miss them in the end. Trust me.


Cute and Helpful thread! Good luck xo
 

Chickeb

Cheesus
cute thread xo

i've had one relationship in my irl life with a boy my age. he broke my heart and now i sit next to him, which is awkward. i just like around now, i don't focus on anyone irl because god knows it will never last.
 

Millie

Active Mouse
Whew here goes:
So I was in a relationship in MF with someone who was previously with my sister. I felt bad at first, but then again my sister was trying to blackmail me out of my relationship as well as use my partner. As it turns out, my partner was cheating on me. It was a toxic relationship, and I feel that it hurt my sisters connection to me. How can I help fix that bond?
 

Neurological

MAH CHEESE!
Well I wouldn't consider most of my online relationships as anything 'real' because at the time, I was considerably younger and if you see how it contrasts to relationships in the real world, I feel that even though something would be there, It's been partially blocked by the barrier we cannot cross.
That doesn't mean I didn't have a crush on anyone online though, I know of a recent one I had but I think I was too 'obsessed' with them (not going to call them out on this, it was never their fault but mine and I should've thought clearly about what I was doing I guess, we're still friends though and I really appreciate it!), thankfully I managed to get over them little by little even when I thought it wouldn't happen, their encouragement and words lay with me in my head and he was also so caring to my feelings, afraid of breaking my heart.

I've never had a relationship outside of the internet until I started thinking about it recently. I just felt that when I was really young, it wouldn't have been the right time for me to ''get serious'' in any aspect because if I was to have something special with someone, it wouldn't last for long and looking back on my primary school days, I could see why a lot of my classmates ended up parting ways, gladly I dodged the ball there. I still had a crush though, it kind of became my priority ever since about from year 4 to really late year 10/very early year 11, so it only lasted about 7/8 years tops as I slowly too lost interest in them entirely for their change in behaviour and that I rarely ever came up to them, looks like I won't be going to prom with them as I thought I WOULD. I even left them a piece of paper with my written feelings and I put everything into it, I noticed he read it but he never came and asked me about it (I didn't put my name on it BUT I clearly stated a lot of things linked to me), AND there was that time when I left a Christmas card after homework club in the morning closed, when lining up he was looking at it yet he shoved it into his pocket (name on it this time) and didn't even come up to me or at least thank me???

I ended up wasting too much time on him, and it was my fault for building up my expectations thinking he was ever going to be my ''true love'', so now I'm just waiting until I find someone better than him without acting so crazy over it, and I need to focus on exams so no relationships for me at the moment. I never really hated him though, I just hated the fact that he chose to change how he acted (and his attitude) and his focus on school, his main opportunity being money, and that really threw me off.
 

Beep

Active Mouse
this cute girl at school likes me and i like her and she's too scared to do anything so im being patient but newsflash im starting to get not patient and im sad
 

Dmitri

Mouse
this cute girl at school likes me and i like her and she's too scared to do anything so im being patient but newsflash im starting to get not patient and im sad
just tell her! she most likely like you more that you are confident.
 

Jakon

Pingless
relationships are hard for me.
I can never stay in one, or stay in it for a long time.
I end up hurting someone, or hurting myself.
I feel like I can never love someone again.
I'm too awkward to start a relationship or go through one.
sometimes, I feel guilty because I usually fall for someone during a relationship.
next day, the person I'm in a relationship with says they love me.
I feel guiltier, and guiltier.
 
Top
"Dev-TR" theme by Soulzone